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What Seems Small to You May Be a Big Help to Others

“Something Small to You May Be a Big Help to Others” by Joan Y. Edwards

I’ve heard the saying, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”  According to several sources including Writing Explained.org, Margaret Wolfe Hungerford  included the phrase in her book Molly Bawn  in 1878.

The worth of a gift is in the eyes of the receiver. Something that seems small to you might be a huge favor in the eyes of the person you helped. Something small to you may be a big help to others.

Examples of small things that might be a big help to others:

When you open the door for someone pushing a wheelchair
When you treat someone to lunch,
When you call 911 for someone,
When you make up someone’s bed,
When you hold a baby while the Mother fixes supper,
When you park a car for someone,
When you give someone a hug,
When you treat someone to coffee,
When you help someone with his coat,
When you drive someone to the doctor,
When you change a flat tire for someone,
When you buy someone a pair of socks,
When you wrap a heated towel around someone’s feet at night,
When you listen to someone’s story,
When you share a funny experience,
When you tell someone they are looking great,
When you ask, “May I help you?”

I think you’ll like these sayings:

Old Tanzanian Proverb “Little by little, a little becomes a lot. Every act counts no matter how small.”

By giving, you activate a universal law as sound as gravity: ‘life gives to the giver, and takes from the taker.’ The more you give, the more you get.

Zig Ziglar: “The only way to get what you want is by helping enough people get what they want first.” 

As Sir Winston Churchill once said, “We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give.”

Wayne Dyer says, “How people treat you is their karma; how you respond is yours.”

Matthew  7:12  “Do unto others as would like for them to do unto you.”

Luke 6:31 “What you do for others, you do unto me.”

Other Resources

Kitty Kallen. “Little Things Mean a Lot:” https://www.lyricsfreak.com/k/kitty+kallen/little+things+mean+a+lot_20246823.html

Madame Deals. “100 Things You Can Do to Help Others for Free:” https://madamedeals.com/100-story/100-things-you-can-do-to-help-others-for-free/

Writing Explained.org. “Beauty is in the Eyes of the Beholder:” https://writingexplained.org/idiom-dictionary/beauty-the-eye-of-the-beholder

I hope this helps you realize how much your help means to our world. Don’t underestimate your value. God created you for a special purpose.  You mean the world to many people. Each time you read my blog, it means the world to me. Do something fun to celebrate you! Give me an example of something that might seem small to you but a big help to others.

Believe in you.
Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
Copyright © 2019 Joan Y. Edwards

The Forgiveness Tunnel Leads to Better Health

I wanted to share with you the Lenten Reflection video I did for our church, St. Matthew, on The Forgiveness Tunnel for March 7, 2019:

You can watch on

 

  1. Youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKcdBYjz-xI
  2. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/stmatthewcatholic/videos/802409596786248/

Here is a link to my blog post  May 24, 2018 about the Forgiveness Tunnel.

Joan Y. Edwards. “Do You Need the Forgiveness Tunnel?” https://www.joanyedwards.com/2018/05/24/do-you-need-the-forgiveness-tunnel/

And an earlier one in 2016 with the first mention of the Forgiveness Tunnel.

Joan Y. Edwards. “Let Anger and Frustration Go:” https://www.joanyedwards.com/2016/01/12/let-anger-and-frustration-go/

Feel free to share with others.

Other Resources about Forgiveness

Amanda L. Chan “Forgiveness Health Benefits” https://www.huffpost.com/entry/forgiveness-health-benefits_n_6029736

Dolph Lundgren.”On Healing and Forgiveness:” https://www.youtube.com/iNOE0dZpHcY

Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards

Merry Christmas! May You Feel a Rebirth of Joy within You!

Thank you, Jill111 at Pixabay

“Merry Christmas! May You Feel a Rebirth of Joy within You!” by Joan Y. Edwards

Rebirth
by Joan Y. Edwards

The last month of the year
May bring a tear
Of love, loss, or fear.

I hope you feel new mirth;
A joyful rebirth
Feeling your worth

A new day is in your land.
Grasp it by the hand.
Join the survival band.

Banish fear of defeat.
Seize strength and love so sweet.
Wrap them around your feet.

Learn new skills. Grow.
To your dreams go
Some days fast and others slow.

Others care.
Others share.
You will get there.

God has a plan.

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Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! Wishing you an abundance of everything you need.

Thank you KelseySue2 on Pixabay

Here are songs to enjoy!

  1. “Our Father” sung to comfort and bring healing to the people of Galacia, Spain after the train wreck in 2012: https://gloria.tv/video/e43KLmR1DsMm1DCTibL3zfaeF
  2. “The First Noel” by Celtic Woman: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Bts7ndhPw4&index=14&list=PLC3EBA1294034C625
  3. “Mary, Did You Know” sung by Clay Aiken
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5keVc3QNhhw&list=PLC3EBA1294034C625&index=11
  4. “Child of Peace” sung by Sandy Patty, Lyrics by Lyn Hopkins: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YeSPgiXKo7I
  5. Jingle Bell Rock with Lyrics: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=40&v=Rblwisx8X7Y
  6. Happiness – Sung by the Monks of Weston Priory: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMM8K5hDP7w
Thank you, Anca Pixabay for the gift image. I added the words.

You are a gift. Thank you very much for reading my blog. I am grateful that our paths crossed. I love hearing from you.

Sincerely,
Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
Copyright © 2018 Joan Y. Edwards

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Joan’s Elder Care Guide A guide to help caregivers and elders never give up
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Believe That You Have an Abundance of Everything You Need

“Believe That You Have an Abundance of Everything You Need” by Joan Y. Edwards

Abundance, Plenty, Adequate, Sufficient, Ample, Enough

Abundance, Plenty, Adequate, Sufficient, Ample, Enough

In the 1980’s I went through a rough time in my life. I had to come to grips with having too much debt and not enough money coming in to pay all of my bills. I realized that my mindset wasn’t working to help me. I had too many negative thoughts. I set my mind to figuring out how to have a better frame of mind. I NEEDED A POSITIVE OUTLOOK. My positive outlook had gone down the drain.

Here are 3 things that helped me:

  1. My church helping me pay my mortgage  for 3 months and then they said they couldn’t do that any more. That was a good thing. It forced me to do something different.
  2. A priest told me to go for counseling. My belief in myself was nil.
  3. I read Dr. Robert Schuller’s book: Tough Times Never Last, but Tough People Do!
  4. I read What You Think of Me Is None of My Business by Terry Cole-Whitaker.

Through counseling, praying, and reading, I dug my way out of the situation I was in. I made arrangements to pay what I could to those to whom I owed money.

I did not use a credit card until after I had all the credit cards paid off. I did not borrow any money on credit cards unless I was able to pay all of what I owed in 30 days from the day I borrowed the money.

If you’re having a problem feeling there is not enough of what you need now, listen to the thoughts going through your mind. They may be negative. They may be pulling you to scarcity.

Thank you, John Hain and Pixabay for this picture.

Change your thoughts. Say: I am thankful for what I have. Every day I am getting more and more of what I need. I have an abundance of all that I need. What I need is coming to me from sources known and sources unknown.

  • Focus on what you have, not on what you don’t have. What you focus on is what you get in life.
  • Be thankful. What you are thankful for, you get more of.
  • Take action to achieve what you want, first in you mind. Then in other ways. Stealing is not an option. What you need will come to you in legal ways.

Kai says that “To open to The Law of Abundance, we must be willing to become aware of where we focus our attention and what we believe to be true.”

Evelyn Lim says “believe that there is a loving Source – a Sower of Dreams – just waiting to be asked to help you make your dreams come true.”

The Bible says, “Ask and you shall receive. Believe and it will be given unto you.”

Don’t blame someone else for your problems. To achieve an abundance you must take complete responsibility for yourself and your feelings, for what you have and what you don’t have.

Be thankful for the person that you are. You are a wonderful person. You can solve this problem. There are others who will help you find your way. Do not ask them to do it for you. They can help; however, you must change your frame of mind, yourself. You must take action.  Surround yourself with positive minded people.

Read positive things. Watch positive things. Live a positive life. Accept that you are not perfect. Go ahead. Look in the mirror. You are human. You are not perfect. You are a good person. However, even the best human being is not perfect. So love yourself. Love that you are thinking more positive thoughts and doing more positive things than you were a few minutes ago or a few days ago.

Believe in you.
Believe in your worth.
Believe that God is helping you and guiding you.
Believe that an abundance is possible and that you can have it. Chances are you have it now, but are not seeing it. Look for an abundance. Name everything for which you are thankful.

There is always someone better off than you. There is always someone worse off than you. Rejoice and be glad that you are you. God created you to give our earth and its people something special that only you can provide. Believe and it will be given unto you.

I’d love to hear from you. If the comments don’t work, write me at joanyedwards1@gmail.com.

Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
Copyright © 2018 Joan Y. Edwards

Resources
1. Dr. Robert Schuller. Tough Times Never Last, but Tough People Do!
2. Evelyn Lim. “How to Believe in Yourself When Believing Feels Hard:” https://www.evelynlim.com/how-to-believe-in-yourself
3. Harish Kumar. “21 Things That Highly Abundant People Do Differently-Part 1” http://launchyourgenius.com/2014/10/31/abundance-1
4. Kai. The Law Of Abundance – Learning To Receive: https://www.wellbeingalignment.com/law-of-abundance.html
5,Terry Cole-Whitaker.  What You Think of Me Is None of My Business (about abundance)
6. Wayne Dyer. “How to Attract Abundance Into Your Life:” www.beliefnet.com/wellness/2004/03/how-to-attract-abundance.aspx
7.Wikihow. “How to Create an Abundance Mentality: 9 Steps (with Pictures):” https://m.wikihow.com/Create-an-Abundance-Mentality

 

Is Writing Your Passion? Part 2

Is Writing Your Passion? Copyright 2018 Joan Y. Edwards

“Is Writing Your Passion? Part 2” by Joan Y. Edwards

Is writing your passion? How can you tell?

If writing’s your passion, you might do the following:

  1. Stay up late reading a book
  2. Watch people wherever you are
  3. Watch movies of the same genre that you like to write
  4. Write something every day – even if it’s only a list

“Why do you like to write?”

  1. If I don’t write, it’s hard to breathe.
  2. Telling a story isn’t enough; I have to write it down.
  3. I write because it’s fun to relive or imagine  experiences using different points of view.
  4. I like to see characters come alive on the paper.

What are your reasons for writing?

I know you’ve heard reasons for writing. I want to hear your reasons for writing. Please share in the comment area. I’ll add them with your name if you give me permission in the comment.

Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
Copyright 2018 Joan Y. Edwards

 

Caregiver Workshop “Parenting Your Parent,” Charlotte, NC- November 10, 2018

    “Caregiver Workshop ‘Parenting Your Parent,’ Charlotte, NC- November 10, 2018″ by Joan Y. Edwards

Pat Mayhew with the North Carolina Family Caregiver Support Program and Nina Arten with the Shepherd’s Center of Charlotte conducted a Caregiver Workshop, “Parenting Your Parent” on November 10, 2018. Only $25.00. They gave copies of Joan’s Elder Care Guide as door prizes for participants. I discussed how I came to be a caregiver, shared the importance of the caregivers taking care of themselves, and also talked about the signs of the end of life.

PARENTING YOUR PARENTS WORKSHOP Are you managing your life AND your parents’ lives? When did you become the parent of your parents? If this sounds like you, plan to join us to discuss ways to navigate this somewhat complicated life experience.  The Day included:

  • Breakout sessions featuring five experts in their field:

Financial issues, needs and plans Social isolation When roles change (That’s my presentation.) Managing the mechanics of a move Caregiving roadmap

  • A panel discussion with all experts for Questions & Answers
  • Service providers will be on site to provide information about specific life stages and related needs (Hospice, VA, SHIIP (North Carolina’s Senior Health, Insurance Information Program), Social Security, etc.)

Nina Arten plans to have other workshops to help caregivers.  Call her at the Shepherd’s Center at 704-365-1995 to find out details and to be put on a newsletter list.

Cost was $25.00 per person. A limited number of scholarships were available. Included Continental breakfast and lunch  Presented by The Shepherd’s Center of Charlotte and The North Carolina Family Caregiver Support Program

Thank you for reading my blog. 

 

I was a Speaker at a Workshop for Caregivers, November 10, 2018

“I was a Speaker at a Workshop for Caregivers, November 10, 2018” by Joan Y. Edwards

Workshop rescheduled for Saturday, November 10, 2018 due to Hurricane Florence.

Pat Mayhew and Nina Arten, the two coordinators of the the Parenting Your Parent’ Workshop for Caregivers on September 15, 2018, invited me to be a speaker.  I discussed how I came to be a caregiver, share the importance of the caregivers taking care of themselves, and also talk about the signs of the end of life.

Not only did they buy sixteen copies of Joan’s Elder Care Guide to give to the speakers and to use as door prizes for the caregivers at the workshop, they also allowed my to sell copies of both Joan’s Elder Care Guide and  Flip Flap Floodle!!!

This was exciting for me. (Read to find out the fun story of the purchase of the 16 books)

This is why I wrote this book…to help caregivers. I’ve written other post sharing about the sixteen books. That in itself was an awesome experience.  I am thankful that Park Road Books not only carries my book but openly promotes it whenever anyone comes looking for a book on caregiving!

I enjoyed meeting those who attended. I am thankful to God for his connecting me with you.

 

Nina Arten plans to have other workshops for caregivers. Call her at the Shepherd’s Center: 704-365-1995.

PARENTING YOUR PARENTS Workshop

Are you managing your life AND your parents’ lives?
When did you become the parent of your parents?

If this sounds like you, plan to join us  where we will discuss ways to navigate this somewhat complicated life experience.

Workshop
Saturday, November 10, 2018
9:00 AM  to 3:30 PM
Myers Park Presbyterian Church,
2501 Oxford Pl.,
Charlotte, NC 28207

The Day included:

  • Breakout sessions featuring five experts in their field:

Financial issues, needs and plans
Social isolation
When roles change (That’s my presentation.)
Managing the mechanics of a move
Caregiving roadmap

  • A panel discussion with all experts for Questions & Answers
  • Service providers will be onsite to provide information about specific life stages and related needs (Hospice, VA, SHIIP (North Carolina’s Senior Health, Insurance Information Program), Social Security, etc.)

Shepherd’s Center at 704-365-1995.
Continental breakfast and lunch are included.

Presented by

The Shepherd’s Center of Charlotte and
The North Carolina Family Caregiver Support Program

 

Thank you for reading my blog.

Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
Copyright © 2018 Joan Y. Edwards

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Bloom Where You Are Planted

“Bloom Where You Are Planted” by Joan Y. Edwards

Sometimes, the grass seems greener on the other side. However, that may not be true.

There is a phrase that I think helps us live a little happier on the inside:”Bloom where you are planted.”

Be happy wherever you are. When it rains on your parade, use an umbrella.  When life hands you a lemon, make lemonade.

When I taught school, there were days when I thought, maybe there’s another profession that might be better for me. I’m thankful that God helped me to stick it out. The benefits of staying there at that particular spot helped create strength to handle opposition. I taught many students who outdid themselves in learning beyond what anyone thought they could do. I also gained a great a feeling of satisfaction of not giving up.

When you’re unhappy where you are, chances are you’ve misunderstood something. You’re overlooking one or more of your blessings for being there.

Make a list of 10 reasons you are thankful for where you are and who you have become in this place.

List the 3 things that disappoint you where you are.

Brainstorm what you could do to make life better for yourself right where you are.

If after listing these things and brainstorming ideas to make your life better, pray about it. Remember that there is no perfect place.  No perfect person.  If you still need a change, perhaps the change you are seeking is within you, not your surroundings. Pray and ask God for direction. He will help you.  You are a child of God. God never ever deserts his children.

Enjoy being you! You are a delightful gift to our world.

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Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
Copyright © 2018 Joan Y. Edwards

 

 

Turtles Listen

Turtles Coming to Listen

 

I love to see the turtles in the pond on Tybee Island, Ga. They listen and come to me when I talk. Turtles listen.
Ten years ago, when my husband, Carl and I first visited Tybee Island, we stayed in a house near a pond.  We walked across a bridge that led to a beach area. I noticed these tiny little turtle heads popping up at the top of the water. I said to Carl, “Look at the little turtles!”
I started talking to them. I talk to all animals. Not all animals respond to my voice. However, these turtles seemed to listen and they came over to where Carl and I were standing on the bridge.
Each time we go, it’s the same experience.  When we talk, the turtles listen and come close to us. They swim over to us like we are singers on stage or preachers at church. When I ask Carl to talk to them to see what happens, they continue to come and hang out with us in a semi-circle formation.
When I go to the other side of the bridge at the far side of the pond, the turtles on that side come to listen. The other turtles stay to hear Carl. This year I noticed when Carl and I both went to the other side of the bridge, the turtles from the first side were swimming over to that side to join us, but we were leaving.
We have been there 5 times. Each time it fills me with joy! This year some of them came way up on the bank and if we had been able to get down there with them, we probably would have been able to pet them on the top of their shells. I sang “You Are My Sunshine” and “Jesus Loves Me” to them.
 
Many people have told me that they have been to ponds with turtles in them. Some have noticed they listen when you speak. Some say they come only when you feed them. However, we don’t feed them and they come to hear what we have to say. If you are ever at a pond with turtles in it. Speak to them and see what happens. 
These turtles get to see beautiful sunsets every evening like this!
Getting in tune with nature is healing. A gift from God. I look for and receive healing from God in many ways. This is one I especially am grateful for.
If you’re a writer, this might inspire you to write. If you’re an artist, it might inspire you to paint. If you’re a photographer, it may entice you to take a picture or two. May you find little things around you to fill you with joy.
Never Give Up
Joan Y. Edwards
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Joan’s books
Flip Flap Floodle, Will this little duck’s song save him from Mr. Fox? 
Joan’s Elder Care Guide A guide to help caregivers and elders find solutions.

Do You Need the Forgiveness Tunnel?

 

 

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    “He got on my last nerve.”

 


When my daughter, Mollie used the expression. “He got on my last nerve,” I laughed and laughed. It’s such a funny expression.

However, if you are angry with someone because they hurt you, it is not a funny situation for you. It can become a funny situation. However, it can also end up festering your heart and soul for years. It’s a choice. Forgiving and letting go of the anger is not always easy. It’s hard to forgive someone when he undoubtedly touched a nerve and ticked you off.

You may have to go through the Forgiveness Tunnel. Not just once, but maybe more than one time. Years after I think I’ve forgiven and forgotten a misgiving, an event or thought may trigger a memory. I find myself angry all over again. So I have to go through what I call the Forgiveness Tunnel again.

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If things are mixed up in your mind, pray about it. Ask God to help you let go of the anger and hatred attached to the anger.  Many times fear is sandwiched in with the anger and the hatred. Feelings of confusion, thoughts of getting revenge, and a myriad of unkind actions may permeate your mind.

Sometimes we get angry over things that are what I call the “grandfather effect.” They’ve happened before. This is a repeat offense. In this case you are dealing with layers of hurt…old wounds that are opened up by new pain and suffering. Past visions and videos show on the walls of the tunnel as you go through. You hear the voices all over again. The pain comes back.

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Past visions and videos show on the walls of  the tunnel as you go through.

Remind yourself of the scripture: Forgive my brother 70 x 7 times: http://www.biblehub.com/matthew/18-22.htm
The Unforgiving Servant

  • Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother who sins against me? Up to seven times?”
  • Jesus answered, “I tell you, not just seven times, but seventy times seven times!

That equals 490 times.

How to go through the Forgiveness Tunnel

1. Pray.
2. Read your favorite scripture.
3, Read a story of forgiveness: A Story of Two Brothers
4. Watch a funny movie or a sad movie. Laughing so hard that you cry, or crying in sympathy with others on the screen may equalize your emotions and allow you to let go easier.
Movies:

5. Write a letter to the person who offended you. Don’t send it. Just write it. Then write a reply from them to you. It’s amazing what you come up with. Tear up both letters into tiny pieces.  Put it in three different trash cans so that it won’t get back together again.

6. Drink a glass or two of water.

7. Dig a hole in the ground and plant a flower in it. You can also get a pot and put dirt in it. Make sure your hands get in and feel the dirt. Plant the seed or a small plant. When it blooms, know that your love and cooperation with nature made it possible.  Playing in the dirt or sand is grounding. So go to the beach if you can and play in the sand. Work in your garden.

8. Remember the times someone forgave you. Remember the love God has for you. Remember those who surround you with their love. Feel yourself being filled with God’s love. 
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9. Pray again.

10. If you’re able to talk to the person, tell them you forgive them and that you hold them responsible for their behavior and that God is their judge.

11. Take a walk.

12. I’m sure you’ll think of other ways to help you forgive. It will really end up helping you more than you would ever believe.

13. Why should you forgive? What’s in it for you?  Mayo Clinic Staff gives the following rewards for forgiving your brother: 
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692
“Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace of mind. Forgiveness can lead to:

  • Healthier relationships
  • Improved mental health
  • Less anxiety, stress and hostility
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Fewer symptoms of depression
  • A stronger immune system
  • Improved heart health
  • Improved self-esteem

Here’s a video I made for St. Matthew Catholic Church for a Lenten Reflection for March 7, 2019. You can watch it on YouTube or Facebook:

  1. Youtube “The Forgiveness Tunnel;” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BKcdBYjz-xI
  2. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/stmatthewcatholic/videos/802409596786248/

Article in which I first wrote about the Forgiveness Tunnel in January, 2016:

Joan Y. Edwards. “Let Anger and Frustration Go:” https://www.joanyedwards.com/2016/01/12/let-anger-and-frustration-go/

Other Resources

  1. Christian Post: “12 Encouraging Bible Verses on Forgiving Others
    http://ipost.christianpost.com/post/12-encouraging-bible-verses-on-forgiving-others
  2. 6 Bible Verses to Help Forgive Someone Who Hurt You
    http://blog.bible/bible-blog/entry/6-bible-verses-to-help-forgive-someone-who-hurt-you
  3. Mayo Clinic – Forgiveness https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692
  4. The Hope Line – How to Forgive https://www.thehopeline.com/how-to-forgive
  5. Psychology Today: How Do You Forgive Even When It Feels Impossible-Part 1
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-anger/201409/how-do-you-forgive-even-when-it-feels-impossible-part-1
  6. Psychology Today: How Do You Forgive Even When It Feels Impossible-Part 2
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-anger/201605/how-do-you-forgive-even-when-it-feels-impossible-part-2
  7. Tiny Buddha: How to Forgive Someone When It’s Hard- 30 Tips to Let Go of Anger
    https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-forgive-someone-when-its-hard-30-tips-to-let-go-of-anger/
  8. Tiny Buddha: 20 Things to Do When You’re Feeling Angry with Someone
    https://tinybuddha.com/blog/20-things-to-do-when-youre-feeling-angry-with-someone/

Songs to Help You Forgive

I’d love to hear from you. What helps you forgive?

Never Give Up

Please check out my books:
Flip Flap Floodle, Will this little duck’s song save him from Mr. Fox?
Joan’s Elder Care Guide A guide to help caregivers and elders find the solutions they need.
Joan Y. Edwards
Copyright © 2018 Joan Y. Edwards

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